Young Love

I love hanging out with newlyweds.  They are so cute and in love.  I think that people who have been married a while tend to dismiss that desire to serve each other, forgive each other, and be intentional about having a good marriage.  They adapt the attitude of “Oh, just wait!  Once you experience the real world of marriage, you won’t be like this!”  That cynicism and jaded response seems justified.  It is absolutely true that the cute couple in early wedded bliss has no way of knowing what is ahead.  They haven’t seen the worst of their spouse yet.  They haven’t been hurt by the one who is supposed to love them the most.  They haven’t been exhausted with young babies, or in the throes of foreclosure on their home.  They haven’t experienced the stress of a move or job loss or infertility.

But have we ever considered that we – the couples who have been married for a while in this “real world” – are the ones missing the boat?  We are the ones who have let the stresses of the world and the sins of our spouse cause us to forget

*That our spouse isn’t our enemy — they are on our team.

*That date night is important and needs to happen, even if it’s decaf coffee after the kids are tucked into bed.

*That sex is fun and is worth a little less sleep, even when you’re exhausted parents.

*That even if we lose everything –all our worldly stuff— we still have our love and our God and that’s enough.

*That getting to go to bed every night and wake up every morning next to our best friend is pretty fun!

*That our spouse has some really amazing things about them that drew our attention when we started dating.

*That God asks us to serve our spouse without the need to be served in return.

*That we are called to forgive not because our spouse deserves to be forgiven – but because WE have been forgiven of a much greater debt.

*That God tells us to respect our husbands – not because they have earned the respect, but because He commands it.  God tells us to love our wives – not because they are lovable, but because He commands it.  And after husbands start loving, wives become more lovable.  And after wives start respecting, husbands become more respectable.

So when you see these newly married couples giving goo goo eyes to each other and being all cute and in love, remember that you can learn a thing or two from them.  Then go kiss your spouse in the kitchen!

Young Love

5 Replies to “Young Love”

  1. Wonderful and truthful post! Within the first couple of years of our marriage we were traveling with our first born who was not even a year old at the time. We were in a diner early in the morning having breakfast. My husband kept looking across the room. I finally had to ask what he was looking at. “That older couple over there. I can’t help but notice how giggly they are and how much fun they seem to be having together in their own little world.” I looked over and sure enough they were sitting very close together, grey haired, smiling and giggling. “If God lets us to live that long, that is how I want to be with you someday. My goal is at least 50 years (we were a little older when we married-well for back then) and through the years we could finish like them.” We have reminded each other of that couple over the years so we can refocus and do what it takes to not only live well, but finish well. Young love to Old love, and all the in-between, it’s all an experience to reconcile us to HIM. What a design our awesome God has in marriage!! Thanks for your post J!

    1. Jackie I absolutely love that! What an amazing thing for God to give you that picture of love that lasts through the decades at such an early time in your marriage. Inspiring!

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